Note to Self : Joy is my Portion!!!

So today, as we’re heading into the last days of this year (2011), I figured that we all need to understand that we ALL deserve to be happy. DIVINE JOY is your PORTION in this life! You’ve got to look at what you’ve got right now and live in appreciation that you can live another day with the full knowledge that you have the ability to change your circumstances by doing one simple thing that needs to change. It starts with the letter “M”.

Yes, you guessed it! YOU have to Change your MIND.

A small exercise: I want you to write a letter to yourself and write 20 POSITIVE things about yourself.

When you’ve done that, read it to yourself everyday until YOU BELIEVE EVERY WORD of it. Post it up on your bathroom wall/mirror, or some place where you’ll see it everyday and read that list everyday for 21 days.

Why 21 days?

It takes 21 days to form a habit as it also takes 21 days to break a habit. Permit this change in your life by forming a habit of POSITIVITY.

YOU can break the HABIT of NEGATIVITY with this short 21 day habit of POSITIVE thinking. Purpose to speak the OPPOSITE of  the Negative to renew your mindset to think Positive.

i.e. When someone says “You can’t because” reverse this thought with “I CAN”.

Now, I know that this seems to be me giving you a lecture but I’m gonna try this thing too. It wouldn’t be fair to you if I don’t put it into practice myself. I’ve done it before with just 10 things, so I’m gonna write my list here and put down 20 Positive things about myself. I chose the number 20 because I don’t want us to make this exercise easy by writing down 5 things which is a short list…

You will find that those with negative mentalities find it difficult to write even 10 things down so I’m making it a challenge to do double that. Let’s up this ante.


So when you start this exercise you will notice that you will become stronger as you purpose to think GOOD things and work this journey out of the darkness of negativity and into the light of POSITIVITY.

Philippians 4:8-9 (NKJV)

Meditate on These Things

8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. 9 The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you. [Emphasis Added]

Sherline’s  List of 20 Positive things about herself – here goes:

1. I am a smiley person.

2. I have a beautiful spirit.

3. I am a positive influence.

4. I make people laugh which makes me happy.

5. I am a creative writer that lives to inspire.

6. I have a go-getter attitude.

7. My strength is in speech.

8. I have pretty eyes.

9. I enjoy positive thinking.

10. I am surrounded by wonderful people.

11. I am loved.

12. I am a free spirit that is blessed to be a        blessing.

13. I love to sing and dance.

14. I care for people, young and old.

15. I love to volunteer.

16. I am born to lead, to serve, and to Praise my GOD.

17. I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

18. I am made in God’s image.

19. I am a respected lady.

20. I am a strong woman striving to be a PROVERBS 31 woman.

You don’t have to limit your list to just 20, but 20 is the start. Keep adding to it when you have more positive things to say. POSITIVITY is contagious.  I have given you the SWAT for Negativity. POSITIVITY should reign in your heart. Be Blessed to be a BLESSING.

I’m going to put a song that has been boosting me up each day this week and it’s really a praise song that has been in my heart at the moment that I listen to each morning from yet again OUT OF EDEN.

It’s called “Now I Sing” – Out of Eden.

May it minister to you today and stay blessed and POSITIVE everyone. Registered & Protected

Overcoming Disappointments by Maintaining a Positive Attitude

Image result for positive attitude quotesSo you must be wondering why I am writing about this topic. So much has been happening around me, I don’t have time to put things into detail but I feel like this is a good topic to raise. I have tried to be a consistent blogger but it’s difficult when I find myself really busy with things that I have to do but I just want to let you know (you the reader) that I’m still here.

The reason why I am bringing this up is because it is something that everybody faces at some point in their lives. I have had a few disappointments in terms of the encounters I have had with several individuals that seem to be there for you one moment and totally abandon you the next. Sometimes we are disappointed because of negative outcomes for things we hoped for, or because life seems unfair and nothing good seems to be working in our lives. I am speaking in general terms for the purpose of this topic so that you can understand that disappointments are inevitable occurences. Disappointments are not phenomenons, they are expected at some point in our lives but it’s how we respond to disappointments that counts.

Image result for positive attitude quotesThe idea here is that we should not engage in a habit of self-pity. Self-pity is misery that wants company in my books and truly…when I encounter individuals with this state of mind…I always warn them not to RSVP me in their pity-party invites. Why mention self-pity? We can easily fall into traps of thinking negative thoughts that produce a negative personality and an obscure way of looking at things in life that attribute to unhealthy life-style choices. Do not engage in entertaining negative thoughts since they produce negative emotions and characters as a result. The main point is that we must engage in positive thought patterns and make an effort to change how we see a negative outcome or incident. Overcomers typically have positive thought patterns that allow them to lead more successful and productive lives. If you want to have such traits, you must begin by making the effort to choose to think positive.

Positive thinking doesn’t “just happen”, you have to use your will to change the way you think. It is not a simple task and hence you are required to make a conscious effort to change your patterns of thinking.

Do not get me wrong here in that I know that realistically, there are varying degrees of disappointments that a person may encounter at different periods in their life, but each disappointment can be overcomed by how you look at a situation. We tend to lean towards negative thought patterns when things do not go “our way” or when people hurt us in different ways but the only person that can keep you happy is YOU. The only person that can change this outlook is also YOU.

send a positive thought - calmRemaining positive minded is a choice thing and it is also a disciplined practice as well. You choose how to react, you choose how to respond and you choose the actions that you want to take. Notice how everything is all on you to take that step to transform your way of thinking.  Renew your mind and think thoughts that give you pleasant feelings.  Now having said that, I will reiterate that it takes a conscious effort to change your way of thinking. Life has a way of throwing curve-balls at you but it is at these times that you need to keep your wits about you. This isn’t the time for you to break-down, but because of how reality knocks at us, we cannot underestimate the fragility of our minds to break when encountered with disappointments.

Disappointments can accompany many negative emotions such as despair, discouragement, hopelessness, fear, rejection, sadness, confusion, anger, regret etc, but these emotions can last for a short period or a prolonged period based on how we entertain these negative thoughts. It’s easy for people to become easily ensnared by negative thought patterns if they have not practiced positive thinking and positive responses to negative actions. Disappointments also have a way of eating at the very core of our self-esteem and can lead us to have poor self-image problems if we are not careful enough to guard our minds from over-brooding negative situations and experiences in our lives.

Why do I advocate “positive thinking”? I have seen that in my life, I have had various degrees of disappointments that have even led to suicidal thought patterns, so I know that if you over-brood on the negative, you will definitely affect your destiny by gravitating towards poor life choices and negative personalities. In effect, such a poor personality can cause people to be drawn away from you thus resulting in self-isolation and eventually, the path of a negative mindset leads to a treacherous path of uncertainty in your future. In other words, you can easily loose your way and apathy can begin to build up if you don’t curb your way of processing the things you are experiencing. Why would I over dramatize my last comment? Because I speak from experience.

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Negative personalities affect others around you believe it or not. You can impact others with the way you respond to things. How you respond to negative experiences will affect how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you. There were times when I thought life was hopeless and meaningless and I left my mind idle to detrimental thought patterns. I thought that there was no light at the end of the tunnel in certain situations where some individuals whom I thought were “friends” did things that utterly disappointed me and left me to think that this is why I loose hope in humanity”. Essentially, it doesn’t matter who wronged me, the point is, is that I had already entertained dark thoughts that were not productive in my walk in life. I had to force myself to think differently. Positive minded people are attractive whereas the opposite is also true…negative people deter people.

To cultivate a positive mind, you can nuture it by surrounding yourself with “like-minded” individuals. This is a tough one since your peers can easily succumb to negative thought processes due to the stresses of life and other things that life has to offer. At the end of the day, it’s up to you to transform your thought life to a positive streamlined way of thinking. You determine your destiny by renewing your mind to think of good things. Meditate on things that are productive. This is not to say that you’ll never feel bad emotions in your life, but what I am saying is that you can overcome these emotions by not entertaining them for long periods of time and learning to overcome them by training your mind to think on the “bright side”. Life is a gift but we can make it a curse if we brood in negativity. In the end, it’s all up to YOU! Registered & Protected