I just had to post these two videos by Joseph Solomon to encourage those who are “Single” as in “Not Married” to not waste their singleness by being overly consumed with this preoccupation of wanting to get married. I’m not saying that it’s bad to have a desire to be married because honestly, I’d like to get married one of these days (if that’ll ever happen); however, what I am saying is that as a single person, you don’t have to be so overly consumed by the desire to get married because you can enjoy your season as a single person if you appreciate what you have right now with respect and value.
I’ve seen people get together wishing they were single again while some single people are still yearning for a mate. The desire to get married is not a bad thing, but don’t make marriage an idol unto itself. You’ll find yourself pursuing a person to reach that goal for the wrong reasons and then once that goal is accomplished, you may even regret the choice that you even made because you were so wrapped up in achieving the goal of marriage that you may not have discerned that the person you were with could have been an unequal yoke to your destiny.
That’s why it is so important to be prayerful about your future spouse. Although men should do the pursuing, I think that men just as much as women need to be just as prayerful about who their spouse might be. God has a way of showing a man who he should pursue. I believe that 100%. At the same time ladies, don’t chase after the guy that catches your eye, especially if he is not pursuing you in anyway. You might land yourself in a place filled with disappointment if you pursue someone that isn’t even looking in your direction. Trust me, I’ve learned.
As a go-getter type of chick that I am, I find this to be quite difficult for me to do because I’m not afraid to pursue; however, like I said in a previous post, it has done me no favours. Men are the ones that are meant to pursue their spouse because that’s just the Biblical order of things. As difficult as this maybe to gulp down, it’s best to be prayerful about your spouse and allow God to orchestrate your “love story”.
But in the mean time, what do the ladies do? I would say, pursue your ministry. Chase after God all the more because I think it’s very important to build on your personal relationship with God so that when God finally blesses you with your future spouse, you can grow strong in the faith together. Once you have a family, you can teach your children (if you have any) more about God because you’ve already developed that level of intimacy with God as a single person on your own that you’ll be better equipped to guide others in the right direction.
If a small rudder can change the course of a huge ship’s direction, then just believe that (you) being that small rudder, God can change the course of your destiny when you follow His direction and instruction. Keep your faith in God, Trust Him all the more, and keep praying for God to chart the course of your destiny and your future spouse’s destiny to be in alignment to what God has planned for the both of you to do. Put God first and all these things shall be added unto you. I pray that these videos by Joe will bless your spirit today. God Bless You Everybody 😀 !
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.